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Emotional Intelligence: self-control earns trust

  1. Joy
    1. Diversion
    2. Pleasure
    3. Delight
    4. Satisfaction
      1. Contentment
      2. Fulfillment
    5. Enjoyment
  2. Love
    1. Wonder
    2. Shyness
    3. Amazement
    4. Affinity
    5. Penchant
    6. Attachment
    7. Infatuation
    8. Passion
    9. Devotion
    10. Altruism
      1. Kindness
      2. Charity
    11. Desire
    12. Lust
  3. Surprise
    1. Confusion
    2. Puzzlement
    3. Bewilderment
      1. Astonishment
      2. Incredulity
    4. Shock
    5. Startle
  4. Fear
    1. Anxiety
    2. Consternation
    3. Trepidation
  5. Worry
    1. Apprehension
    2. Dread
  6. Fright
    1. Terror
    2. Horror
  • Disgust
    1. Distaste
    2. Aversion
    3. Abhorrence
    4. Revulsion
      1. Repugnance
      2. Repulsion
  • Anger
    1. Irritation
    2. Acrimony
    3. Animosity
    4. Exasperation
    5. Outrage
      1. Indignation
      2. Vexation
    6. Hatred
      1. Hostility
      2. Ire
      3. Wrath
    7. Resentment
  • Sadness
    1. Dejection
    2. Melancholy
    3. Sorrow
      1. Grief
      2. Anguish
    4. Loneliness
      1. Isolation
      2. Rejection
    5. Despair
      1. Resignation
      2. Dolor
    6. Depression
  • Shame
    1. Embarrassment
    2. Chagrin
    3. Regret
    4. Remorse
    5. Humiliation
    6. Mortification
    7. Guilt
      1. Blame
      2. Disgrace

    Epistemic and Instrumental
    Irrationality and Emotion

    Sing a Song of Biases

    Irrational thought often accompanies strong, sometimes unidentified emotion. Common impediments to rational thought include:

    1. Availability heuristics
    2. Fundamental attribution error
    3. Anchoring
    4. Representativeness heuristics
    5. Status quo bias
    6. Survivor's bias
    7. Self-Aggrandizement
    8. Over-confidence
    9. Cognitive dissonance
    10. Quasi-magical thinking
    11. Memory bias
    12. Hindsight bias
    13. Compartmentalising
    14. Fear of regret
    15. Others

    In order to increase my awareness of emotions, I have devised the list on the left, based on experience and the book "Emotional Intelligence" by Daniel Goleman. His later books, "Working With Emotional Intelligence" and "Primal Leadership", are also widely acclaimed as insightful and informative. The spectrum identified here is rather wide, but perhaps not comprehensive. By narrowing a focus on perceptions and naming a feeling one may better track why one experiences certain emotions.

    Reviewing the feelings categorized alongside this text may help one find a few which characterize a present state of mind. Note the category under which the feeling is organized for insights into how it may have come to pass. Attaching a name to a present feeling reminds one of the transient nature of such things and points a clearer direction toward understanding. Identifying emotions in others likewise promotes understanding.

    According to Richard Lucas one may increase happiness through a nightly review and analysis of the daily events which have gone well. Analyze only the reasons these events went well. Writing a short essay about the potential absence of a positive life event also improves ones' affective state. Likewise, when pursuing improvement of creativity, carefully employ only the techniques of Appreciative Inquiry rather than any deficiency-based method.

    Amy Cuddy asserts from her behavioral research, that one may gain confidence by practicing preparatory posing before confronting challenging individuals or groups. She suggests two minutes of a standing posture with arms lifted up, hands extended out and the head thrown back to simulate a winner's body language. Cuddy claims that uncrossing ankles and spreading one's arms during an encounter will also encourage expansive and open expression on the part of the practitioner. She contends that body language affects the mind of the posing individual as much as those others who may see the non-verbal messages.

    The principles and concepts detailed above in no way constitute advice to the reader. Readers are hereby notified that the web designer intends for this page to be used only by the writer as a reminder of concepts presented in the books mentioned above.

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