Topic: Faith
Real love: sophisticated cooperation, or more?
Some behavioral theorists and researchers regard love as no more than a sophisticated form of human cooperation. Economic game theory predicts that individuals generally find advantages in cooperating with another person until one of the two stops. As soon as the one individual stops cooperating, economic game theory predicts that the other should also stop. Although this falls far short of any well accepted definition of love, behavioral psychologists have long counted cooperation as one of the most basic tenets of human interactions. Mathematician and behavioral researcher, Martin Nowak considers five types of human cooperation, first, direct reciprocity (simple quid pro quo); second, indirect reciprocity (cooperating to enhance reputation); third, spatial selection (cooperating with thy neighbor); fourth, group selection (cooperators perceiving and realizing an advantage over defectors); and fifth, kin selection (cooperating with thy brother).
The question suggested to me in all this becomes, whether love is merely a combination of the aforementioned forms of cooperation, or if it transcends these types. Luke 6:27 - 35 commands the followers of Jesus to cooperate not only in the circumstances enumerated above but further, to love their enemies. Specifically, the Contemporary English Version translates the words of Jesus as follows.
This is what I say to all who will listen to me: Love your enemies, and be good to everyone who hates you. Ask God to bless anyone who curses you, and pray for everyone who is cruel to you. If someone slaps you on one cheek, don't stop that person from slapping you on the other cheek. If someone wants to take your coat, don't try to keep back your shirt. Give to everyone who asks and don't ask people to return what they have taken from you. Treat others just as you want to be treated. If you love only someone who loves you, will God praise you for that? Even sinners love people who love them. If you are kind only to someone who is kind to you, will God be pleased with you for that? Even sinners are kind to people who are kind to them. If you lend money only to someone you think will pay you back, will God be pleased with you for that? Even sinners lend to sinners because they think they will get it all back. But love your enemies and be good to them. Lend without expecting to be paid back. Then you will get a great reward, and you will be the true children of God in heaven. He is good even to people who are unthankful and cruel.
(Luk 6:27-35 CEV)
These words of Jesus serve not as some secondary consideration or optional suggestion. His directive here instructs his followers unequivocally and carries direct connection to the verse which names for his disciples their most basic identifying characteristic, found specifically in John 13:34 - 35.
And now I give you a new commandment: love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. If you have love for one another, then everyone will know that you are my disciples."
(Joh 13:34-35)
By setting this irrational and inexplicable standard and commanding us to emulate the standard, Jesus shows that real love comes from the divine, not out of any normal human standard of behavior. No game theory or psychological hypothesis can explain the love that emanates from God and causes us to want to know him. We begin to know of him when we learn that he and his love are inextricably entwined as is written in 1st John 4:8.
God is love, and anyone who doesn't love others has never known him.
(1Jo 4:8 CEV)
And yes, by others, these words mean all others.
Then Jesus asked, "Which one of these three people was a real neighbor to the man who was beaten up by robbers?" The teacher answered, "The one who showed pity." Jesus said, "Go and do the same!"
(Luk 10:36-37 CEV)
By the standard set in Jesus' example I suggest that real love, truly unconditional and God-like love does transcend archetypical models of cooperation. Jesus' love defies rational explanation in that he said and showed that:
The greatest love you can have for your friends is to give your life for them.
(Joh 15:13 GNB)
For even the Son of Man did not come to be served; he came to serve and to give his life to redeem many people."
(Mar 10:45 GNB)
These were the strongest words ever recorded on the subject of love, and these were acted upon in complete consistency and purpose. Thus love was forever proven more than just sophisticated cooperation.